Q. What is a better way to address Mediocre-but-(I-know-it-all) guys around?
Assuming you have a reasonable counter opinion or argument, here is what you could do (scripted for easy rehearsed re-production).
You say: "Really??"
Display surprise, intrigue, anxiousness, fear or any such strong emotion in your tone and facial expression depending on the context and situation. This should disturb the mental state of supremacy being displayed by Mr. Know-it-all.
You say: "Thats' interesting"
This will ensure that you have your listener's full attention
Now state your point-of-view in a matter of fact, yet innocent and confident tone, as if seeking approval or clarity... since you are confused / concerned / alarmed / worried thanks to the piece of advice dished out by Mr.know-it-all.
By doing this, you are not hurting his ego, and yet breaking his resistance to another perspective. Projecting a state of subtle vulnerability also invariably instills a sense of responsibility into the other person's sub-conscious. At the very least, he will re-consider his perspective in the light of what you have just shared.
This may not drastically alter Mr.Know-it-all's cocky attitude, but he will surely be better behaved with you around.
Go on... have fun :-)
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Assuming you have a reasonable counter opinion or argument, here is what you could do (scripted for easy rehearsed re-production).
You say: "Really??"
Display surprise, intrigue, anxiousness, fear or any such strong emotion in your tone and facial expression depending on the context and situation. This should disturb the mental state of supremacy being displayed by Mr. Know-it-all.
You say: "Thats' interesting"
This will ensure that you have your listener's full attention
Now state your point-of-view in a matter of fact, yet innocent and confident tone, as if seeking approval or clarity... since you are confused / concerned / alarmed / worried thanks to the piece of advice dished out by Mr.know-it-all.
By doing this, you are not hurting his ego, and yet breaking his resistance to another perspective. Projecting a state of subtle vulnerability also invariably instills a sense of responsibility into the other person's sub-conscious. At the very least, he will re-consider his perspective in the light of what you have just shared.
This may not drastically alter Mr.Know-it-all's cocky attitude, but he will surely be better behaved with you around.
Go on... have fun :-)
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